What (Best) Friends Are For

To be honest, all along this year I was a wreck. Call me whatever but I just had what you people call a heartbreak for the first time. Almost everyday of this year my heart is very heavy and I could feel it weighing down in my chest. It doesn't matter how hard I sing and dance or how loud I laugh with my friends, I could feel it holding my chest down.

I'm home now and I just spent almost one whole day with my loveliest chummies. I have not seen them in a almost a year and I was literally dreading to meet them this holiday.

See, I'm not that good of a friend, I suppose. I really am not good at all the catching up with friends thing. Not that I don't like them or anything, I love my friends but sometimes I leave things that I do in the middle of things happening around me, I really don't know how to explain it. I'm just not good at that.

That, and me being an introvert, I don't really share things with my friends that I'm not close to. My two chums might be the only friends that know almost every little detail about me. Also, they're the only two friends that can tell how I would react to things. And this holiday, is the ultimate of them all.

Remember how I said I was fighting to heal myself from eternal heartbreak? That one day I spent with them heal it in an instant. A proof that best friends (or any shoulder to lean on) will heal you from heart break and to love them is like the best thing ever.

A day before we meet, one of my chummy texted me. She told me that she'd been talking to a guy that broke her heart. I told her in an instant that I did too. We literally were going through the same flipping thing!

The next day, we arrived at our best camp a.k.a my chum's house. The first thing that came out of her mouth? "Why is xxx keep liking your pictures on Instagram? What is wrong with him?" At that second, I know that I'm home.

We spent the whole day talking, telling stories, making up metaphors about wind, and every five minutes I wanted to borrow knives or scissors (jokez guys). Each and every minute, I feel my weight is being lift up and the hole in my heart is slowly but surely closing itself. I laugh again, this time for real.

By the end of the day, I feel like everything has gone and my life is up for a new start.
And, I thank God for this two loveliest chummies that has been in my life since I was 4 years old.

Whether it's 3cm or 3000km apart, they are and will always be right there. They never treat me any differently or even left me out of anything in each other's lives. You will always be my healer. I hope we will always grow old together and support each other. I love you guys!

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Summer Trend 2k13: Masks (Singapore Haze)

So, I am home! 

But then I wasted my first week home by sleeping and staying inside because I couldn't go outside at all these past few days. 

If you have been watching or reading the news, you know that Singapore has been hazed for a week (not just on Tuesdays). It's been pretty bad, this afternoon the pollutant standard index went up to over 400. The sky has been looking like this: (can you see anything?)

But then once in a while, you need to come out of the house and buy supplies. So I did go out for like an hour or something. But then again you need to protect yourself, right? So mask-time, it is.

Yep, a lot of people were wearing one which is really really good because I feel less weird. So, yeah, that's my first week of break back home having fun in haze. Whoop whoop! Other great things would be that I've been eating healthy food, home-cooked, delicious food outside for cheap price, eating lots of snacks (I love food what can I say). I've also been cuddlin a lot with my ukulele and my guitar which is the best. Also been watching Daria (my favorite girl of all time)

Hope you guys have fun in your summer or winter!

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY MY DEAREST SOULMATE, HELENA ALEXANDRA NATASHYA NADINE KRISHNA!! 

INFINITE LOVE SINCE 1998! XXX

March!

I promise I'm not making this a big deal or anything.... I need somewhere to write and here it goes.

I'm suppose to do my tutes questions now but I'm tired.

I've been here for almost a month now, believe it or not. I haven't felt homesick until yesterday.

Yep, I know it's so late. Maybe it's because almost all the domestic first years get food from home every week? Hahahaha.

Anyway, it's March! Month of birthdays :)

I hope you all are having lots and lots of fun this month because you will!

P.S. Look at how pretty CBR sky is (despite my crappy camera phone)! No edit filter whatever, and you can see the Telstra Tower :D

Day 1

Day 1 - Seven things that crosses your mind a lot.

Why people do what people do
I like to find that out, what justify people's action, what causes reaction, why some things are okay to do for some people or in some culture and some things aren't.

University
I'm going to one next year, and to be honest I don't know whether I should be excited, happy or nervous and scared, or all at once.

My family
The last time we got together was 3-4 years ago when my uncle got married, and some members couldn't come for important reasons. I would love to get together with everyone sometime soon.

My friends
Some of my best friends are now all over the country and the world and I can't see them everyday. And I miss them so much. It's a good thing I guess that I handle it better now than I was 3 years ago.

Music
I would love to do more of this forever. But I know I'm not oh-so-wonderfully-amazing at this, so yeah..

Memories from school
Especially the ones that I went through at home. I learnt a lot from them, I miss them. Sometimes, I become really mean and wish that I could redo everything all over again because now what I love and cherish are just memories. It wasn't perfect but that made it beautiful. It was special and full of special people and I met the ones I want to be with forever in my life if I have the chance.

Things I should've said or done but I didn't

I just couldn't help it. I do this all the time.

Oh wow, I don't think I'm aware of these until I write it down for the world to see..

Hope for the Younger Generations

I went out with his family and we were in his car listening to the radio over our talking.

Suddenly, there's a new song coming up on the radio, very similar to popular song nowadays with the techno beat and weird sounds.. (It was The Hardest Ever by Will.i.am ft. Jennifer Lopez and Mick Jagger hahaha) and the younger kiddos in the car were so excited over this song and actually sung it. Typical today's kids music, I guess...

But then, another song came up. A song by Bon Jovi, Never Say Goodbye... (I thought it was)


The whole car was in silence when the song came up. I was singing to it and suddenly the guys were singing to the reff too!


Even when he asked who the singer was (because he thought it was Aerosmith), the guys were screaming: "It's Bon Jovi!!"

That, my friend, I believe, is the hope we have in the younger generations to listen to good music! :D

Here's a little present:



*kudos/cheers to the family!*

Part 3: Food

"Makan ga makan, ya asal ngumpul" - Ini lirik lagu bukan sih? Lupa gue.

Yak kembali lagi bersama saya disini semoga anda semua masih tertarik untuk membaca tulisan tulisan sarat gambar ini dan melihat-lihat bagaimana kehidupan sehari-hari saya. Sekarang, saya akan menceritakan kepada anda semua cerita liburan saya yang ketiga. Kalau anda bertanya kenapa sudah yang ketiga, mohon buka blog saya dulu karena bagian satu dan dua telah menunggu untuk dibaca :)

Jadi gini nih, baru aja gue sadar kalo ternyata setiap kali gue pulang liburan gue selalu bawa oleh oleh pas balik. Oleh-oleh yang selalu setia mengikuti kemanapun gue pergi ini bernama: LEMAK. Berat badan yang naik, perut yang membuncit dan celana-celana yang ngga muat adalah hal yang udah gue anggap biasa untuk dihadapi di masa-masa kembali ke realita...

Tapi ya emang masakan-masakan Indonesia itu emang enaknya tiada tara duanya! Dari makanan pinggiran kaki lima, warteg sampe ke restoran-restoran semua rasanya itu NENDANG! Jadi di mohon hati-hati pas lagi makan jangan lupa kakinya pada diiket ya. Takutnya nanti tawuran.

Semua makanannya maknyus dan menggoyang lidah tanpa bergoyang dangdut. Biasanya sebelum gue pulang, gue udah bikin mental list makanan apa aja yang harus gue cicip cicip lagi pas gue lagi di rumah. Gado-gado, ketoprak, ketupat sayur, soto, rawon, empal gentong, es campur, es doger, es duren, AYAM PENYET IBU YANI di KEMANG PRATAMA BEKASI (promosi restoran temen), mi ayam, pangsit goreng bakmi GM, bakso, siomay batagor, nasi goreng, oke kayaknya musti udahan sebelum gue nyebutin semua makanan yang gue tau.

Nah, pas liburan gue dan 2 orang sahabat yang udah sering banget disebut disini, Nadine Nadia, memutuskan untuk bertemu bersama bernostalgia mengulang kembali kenangan lama. Jadi pagi kita janjian di Tamara dan ke panti dulu sampe siang. Pas pulang, kita pun diturunin di hero dan kebingungan mau makan apa. Setelah jalan kesana kemari dibawah teriknya matahari dan peluh yang membasahi, akhirnya kita menjatuhkan pilihan untuk makan di Bakmi Awat. Kwetiauw ayam bakso pangsit pun gue lahap dengan sukses.

Setelah itu kita jalan kaki dari hero ke basecamp kita, Ayam Penyet Ibu Yani sembari menurunkan makanan dan membakar kalori dan lemak. Sampe disana kita dengan sangat baiknya disuguhi Es Kelapa Muda dengan sirup warna merah gitu yang endang bambang. Setelah capek ngobrol selama beberapa jam, kita pun iseng mau beli popcorn. Akhirnya balik lagi jalan kaki dari basecamp ke hero dan bertemu kawan lama yang bernama Ferry. Yang dengan kurang kerjaannya *menurut gue sih* naik sepeda dari kuningan sampe bekasi bolak-balik.

Setelah mendekat ke hero, kita pun gajadi beli popcorn karena menurut kita itu kemahalan dan kurang ngenyangin. Akhirnya kita ke depannya hero karena Nadia udah kepanasan dan kepingin makan es podeng. Gue yang masih kenyang es kelapa muda pun memutuskan untuk makan Tahu Gejrot dan minum es teh yang berhasil gue tebas sampe es es-nya sekalian karena kepedesan. Padahal itu yang pedesnya sedang. Nadine, pertamanya sih ga pesen apa-apa. Ngeliat gue makan tahu gejrot begitu, hasratnya pun timbul untuk mesen juga... Emang dasar ni anak kalo makan lauknya pake cabe, dia pesen yang pedes, tapi ga pesen minum. Nadine dengan sukses ngembat es batu gue dan keringetan lebih drpd tadi sehabis jalan kaki.

Setelah ngobrol bentar dan membayar makanan tadi, kita pun jalan lagi. Begitu liat gerobak siomay, emang dasarnya kita semua pecinta makanan (baca: sedikit rakus), langsung berpikir yang engga-engga. Pertama niat kita pesen siomay batagor satu porsi buat bertiga. Tapi akhirnya kita pesen batagor satu porsi bertiga dengan saus kacang yang dibanyakin. Sayang sekali abangnya ga ngasi kita bonus waktu itu. Tapi ngga papa lah. Udah agak kenyang jg kan ceritanya. Setelah berhasil menyantap batagor seporsi bertiga bersama-sama (kesannya mesra banget ya uuuu :3) kita pun bertekad untuk mengakhiri wisata kuliner hari itu.

Kembalilah kita jalan kaki ke basecamp. Tapi entah kenapa, rasanya hauuuus sekali waktu itu. Dengan penjual es duren di sisi kiri dan kanan jalan, gue sama Nadine udah nafsu kepingin beli. Tapi Nadia berhasil meredam hasrat naga perut gue dan Nadine dan membawa kami masuk ke resto lagi. Tiba-tiba sayup sayup dari kejauhan terdengar, "Tenonet tenonet tenotenonet" (nyanyiin pake lagu eskrim Walls) dan kuping kami yang jeli langsung bereaksi. Wisata kuliner hari itu berhasil ditutup dengan, es krim walls.

Abis itu kita tepar. Duduk-duduk doang. Bisa bayangin ga sih sekenyang apa ya itu perut udah ga kerasa deh kaya ilang. Oh dan mohon diingat, gue minum susu ultra 2 kali buat ngilangin pedes (dan emang itu minuman gue dari kelas 8 haha).

KANGEN INDONESIA KANGEN MAKANANNYA.

*mikir plan wisata kuliner liburan selanjutnya :P*

Part 1: Movies

I'M BAAAACK!

Jadi saya baru saja pulang dari indo dan menyelesaikan petulangan sherina (baca: liburan) part 1. Kenapa part 1? Karena saya masih mengharapkan part 2nya. Doakan aku yaa! (gaya benteng takeshi)

Seruuu banget liburan kali ini (liburan yang sebelum2nya juga seru sih :P). Ada lah beberapa hal baru yang gue lakukan yang sebelumnya belum pernah gue lakukan sebelumnya (bingung ngga sih?) Salah saatunya yang akan saya bahas sekarang adalaaaaah..... nonton film Indonesia di bioskop (backsound: jengjengjengjeng)

Oke bukannya gimana tapi emang gue noraknya ngga ketulungan. Pertama kali nonton film di bioskop adalah waktu gue umur.... gatau udah lupa. Tapi yang gue inget, film pertama yang gue tonton adalah PETUALANGAN SHERINA.

Film itu booming banget waktu baru keluar. Film anak-anak keluarnya pas liburan, tepat waktu banget kan itu promotornya? Emang hebat dah. Dulu karena gue masih kecil, yang beli tiket kan nyokap ama tetangga. Ngantri ampe beberapa hari tuh ga dapet dapet rame terus. Maklum tinggal di Bekasi, jaman dulu bioskop cuman 21 di MM doang. Bandingin ama sekarang udah jauuuuh banget. Radius ga sampe 1 km udah ada XXI di MM, Giant plus Bekasi Square. Trus ada lagi Blitzmegaplex di BCP (yang gue masih ga percaya kalo ini bioskop beneran eksis di Bekasi). Itu aja udah ada 4!! Belom lagi di Grand Mall dan mall2 laen yg gue gatau...

Oke kembali lagi ke cerita, ngantri tiketnya yang lamaaaaaa banget itu membuahkan anak, eh salah, hasil juga. Akhirnya kita dapet tiket untuk nonton jam *lupa pastinya tapi kira2* SETENGAH 8 MALAM.

Masalahnya dulu gue waktu kecil bukanlah manusia separo kalong kaya sekarang. Dulu jam 8 udah ngantuk banget dan jam 9 bisa udah ga sadarkan diri. Setengah 8 gue udah ngantuuk tuh. Tapi demi nonton penyanyi kesukaan gue ini, akhirnya bela2in dah tuh pergi nonton. Puji Tuhan, gue berhasil nonton filmnya sampe selesai dan pulang dengan selamat. (Gue inget banget pas filmnya udah selesai, mallnya udah mau tutup)

Karna gue norak baru nonton bioskop satu kali, ya gue cerita2 gitu lah ke semua orang. Berhubung Petualangan Sherina juga sangat booming, gue dengan sukses memborong VCDnya (yang masih ada sampe sekarang) dan kaset soundtreknya (yang udah ilang :'( ). Kaset sountrek ini gue puter berulang2, gue afal semua lagunya dan karena sering gue play forward (ga sabar nunggu bagian kosongnya untuk habis), kaset itu berhasil memakan korban, tape saya rusak.

Daaan ini yang paling freak dr semuanya. Saudara kembar (tetangga ++ = keluarga :D) gue, pamela yang rumahnya cuman berjarak 2 rumah dr gue, juga suka banget sama film ini. Waktu kecil kita main bareng tuh hampir setiap hari dan setiap saat. Dan jaman2 ni film booming, mainan kita sukses cuman 1: main drama Petualangan Sherina. Dari judulnya, harusnya lo tau kan kita ngapain? (Engga, kita ga ke Lembang trus nyusruk2 di hutan. Lo salah.)

Itulah efek dari film Indonesia yang gue tonton di bioskop kepada diri saya. Dan kembali ke topik awal, kemaren waktu liburan gue nonton Hati Merdeka yang dibintangi oleh Om Darius Sinathrya (yang sangatlah ganteng), Lukman Sardi, Donny Alamsyah (yang juga ganteng) dan Om Nugie. Film ini merupakan film trilogi yang terdiri dari Merah Putih, Darah Garuda, dan Hati Merdeka ini.

Filmnya DEWA BAGUS BANGET (terimakasih untuk yang mengajak gue nonton :D). Menurut gue ini film udah kaya beneran. Inti ceritanya adalah perang yang dihadapi oleh tentara revolusi Indonesia waktu mereka diambil alih LAGI oleh Belanda. Yang ini berlatar belakang di Jogja dan Bali. Filmnya bagus banget, perangnya kaya beneran, suasananya dapet banget, pokoknya TOTAL SALUTE buat yang bikin. Semuanya bener2 super well done. Terutama luka2 di korban dan prajurit yang sukses bikin gue tutup mata. Kalau mau cekidot lebih lanjut silakan ke situs resmi mereka dengan klik disini :D

Niat gue adalah untuk nonton 2 film sebelumnya, tp belum tau kapan dan gimana :) You guys should watch this if you think Indo movies suck, THINK AGAIN.

*btw hari ini tepat 2 tahun gue disini. Thank God I survive :) thank you guys as well for the support! lots of love :)*

#OnlyMarsudirini that will always be in our heart

WAHEYYY!! LOOK AT THE PICTURE PEOPLE!! :D i know i'm so excited!

so, first of all if you read my blog often, I talk about Marsud a lot of times. Well, Marsud or Marsudirini for the full name is where I went to school since I was in kindergarten until one and a half year ago when I was in grade 9 junior high.

I don't know who started this but someone starts the trend by posting tweets about my school with special hash tag #onlymarsudirini. My friends in grade 11 high school is having a very big paper project that will due in a short time and they are all stressed about it. I think those people started the hash tag #onlymarsudirini. Someone even made an twitter official account for this! Follow @OnlyMarsudirini (student official) or the other one @marsudirinians :D

We recalled all the memories, everyone started to tweet with the same hash tag. We retweet almost everything with the #onlymarsudirini in their 140 characters. We don't care whether we know each other or not. Whether we ar alumni or students. Whether we only went there for a short period of time. All of us, Marsudirinians, come together and linking up memories until we finally reach the number 3 trending topic in Indonesia!!!

This is one of the reason why I love Marsudirini Bekasi with all the memories, friends and everything :'3

To Sir, With Love - Glee Casts

Every time I listen to this song, I can't help but cry remembering my junior high school days :') (as well as elementary school)

I WISH YOU A (VERY LATE) MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR! :D

So, today is 10.01.11 and tomorrow is gonna be 11.01.11 *unimportant random fact*

I just got back from my greaat vacay :D well, i don't really have that much time to see all my friends. My holiday was somewhat undercover-ish. However, I had a great time with my family..

I spent my Christmas night here and on 25 went to Indonesia. and I spent whole lot time with my fams. Then, me and Nadia went to Menteng for a day then met Nadine and spent the whole afternoon at the mall. Oh by the way, mie Gondangdia was sooooo good omg!


On the last weekend, I went to Wisnu's house after a hundred years time. Hahaha. By hundred I mean five. Hahaha. Then, me, Lucy, Cristo, and Kresna went to XXI and watched Little Fockers! I had a good time :) too bad Marina weren't there :(


THE MOVIE WAS SO FUNNY! But this is no good for children even though it has the word 'LITTLE' in the title. HAHAHA.

I'm thinking of going back on the CNY, if i have the reason to go back...

Holiday and The Movies

Haiya there people! I'm back! Back in Singapore.. (no exclamation point on this one. haha)

And for a quick latest update, here are the list of movie I watched back home :)

THE KARATE KID

*Jadeen!! and Mr. Jackie!!*

Comedy, action, friendship, love, family. All the values in life we can learn :)


KNIGHT AND DAY
*Tom Cruise is a great actor!*

Full of action that Tom Cruise played without using any stuntman at all. Combined with all the comedy and love :)


PREDATORS
*OMG I LOVE YOU ADRIEN BRODY!!!*

Protection, Trust, Courage, Sacrifices, Instinct. Full of action and great effect. And this film is scary for me.


ECLIPSE
*Team Emmett since the 1st movie! Kellan Lutz :D*

Just another vampire battle, triangle love, lots of kissing, hugging. Kristen, Rob and Tay still mumbling when they say the dialogues. Haha. But this movie is good.


DESPICABLE ME
*Agnes I wanna kidnap you, cutie pie!!*

This is a great movie of Comedy, Family Love, Ambition, Priority, and everything. You can learn so much about life, about happiness and sadness.

ILOVEYOUINDONESIA!!

Ever Fallen In Love?

Sepenggal cerita yang bikin emosi gue campur aduk gatau kenapa haha.

So, I was walking after lunch with my dad to catch our bus. I was so bored that I sing out loud. There were not so many people may be just one or two people passed us. That's why I sing so loud.

Here it comes -->

sis: *singing outloud* ever fallen in love in love with someone ever fallen in love in love with someone
dad: gitu dong nyanyi nyanyi lagi
sis: emang kenapa pa?
dad: ya biar seneng aja gitu
sis: oooh iya iya hahah *ketawa terus nyanyi lagi*

The song sounds so sweet right? Here's the real full song and lyrics. This is why I don't know whether to be happy or sad or what. Hahahaha. I insert some covers of the songs too :) enjoy

Ever Fallen In Love - Buzzcocks

You stir up my natural emotions
Make me feel like dirt, I'm hurt
And if I start a commotion
I run the risk of losing you
What is worse

Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in, in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with

I can't see much of future
Unless we find out who's to blame, what a shame
And we won't be together much longer
Unless we realize that we are the same

Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in, in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with

Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in, in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with

You stir up my natural emotions
And make me feel like dirt, I'm hurt
And if I start a commotion
I only end up losing you
What is worse

Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in, in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with

Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in, in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with

Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in, in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with

Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in, in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with
Shouldn't have fallen in love with
Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with




*hottie :P*

Walking Disaster

currently watching: 52nd Annual Grammy Award - American Idol S9

I will be home in a while. I can't wait to see you smile :) I love you my families my brothers my sisters. I miss you[s].

I remember you wrote this and I still have the paper ♥♥

Special for Cristo: Get well very very soon. I know no basketball for two weeks is no fun at all. Haha. Anyway, get well very soon and I'm really sorry that I couldn't be there. You made me so worried with your message. Haha.

"Shout out your name so it echoes in every room, I would"
[For You I will - Teddy Geiger]

Counting On You

Have you ever felt like so sad because you missed something really important and you should not miss them? Well, I do.

It feels like I've missed some of important issues for being a teenager, Indonesian teenager, in Indonesia. I miss so many things that my friends are dealing with now. And I feel really bad for not being there for them as before. I also feel so bad because I wanna know how my life is going to be if I'm still in Indonesia right now.

I mean, how's life going to be different if I'm not here, anyway? What about meeting friends from other country? What about being so success in you own country with not so much knowledge on outside? What about going to a scholarship from you own country, or maybe from a different country?

How does it feel to deal with love? How does it feel to deal with boys and girls problem? Well, it's not that I want to have a boy beside me to make my life SEEMS perfect. That's not how a perfect life is inside my mind, if I only do that for myself. Selfish, you know.

Well, sometimes you will think, as a teenager, it will be nice to have someone there next to you every time. Someone who understands you and you can discuss anything with them. Some people call it boyfriend or girlfriend. But it's not that shallow. You can have some called best friends and siblings to talk to. They also can understand you. They are humans, by the way.

But, why some teenager feels bad if they don't have any boyfriend or girlfriend? They need to open up their mind, really. Well, there always be somebody out there waiting for you. And if that person really has the piece of your heart, that person is yours. It's just about time whether you will find that Mr. or Mrs. Right fast enough or takes time. I know it sounded a little bit old fashioned but it's true. You will when you believe.

I always wanted to know how my life will be different if I wasn't here. Or maybe if I'm in a whole new world, like USA, Europe, or countries that don't use English much. Will it be the same? Or different? But yeah, being here is just great. This is a great opportunity that God has given to me and my family. He works every time in my life and I'm so grateful that I have Him in my life.

And also sometimes I feel so bad when my friends have something really bad and I can't help them because I don't know much about their real life again. Is distance that cruel? I mean, it separates us. I know Indonesia and Singapore isn't that far. But it costs much. And it's not easy to catch up with your new environment and you still want to be updated with stuffs from your old world. That is exactly what is happening to me. When you were the good one in your old world and you are no one in your new world? It's weird but that's how life should be :D

We go up and down every time. Just remember that God won't give anything that you can not handle. Every thing in our life has been written in our book of life by God. So, everything is His blessing, even the smallest thing that happen to us.