Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Language in Relationship - Stream of Consciousness

Welcome to a new segment called Stream of Consciousness, inspired by the ever-so-amazing Grace Helbig! Stream of Consciousness is basically a piece of writing where there are some topics, a little key points, and no structure. Conclusion is left up to reader's discretion. Let's jump right in, shall we?

Just to set the scene, today we're talking about language in relationships (if it will ever get to that).

I'm not a native English speaker. My first language is Bahasa Indonesia and my second language is Javanese. These two languages are the ones that I know all my life, the first because it's 'compulsory' and the second because since my brother and I were in my mum's belly, she's been talking to us in Javanese. English is my third language and I did not incorporate English in my everyday life until I was 15. It's been six years but I still don't consider myself fluent in English at all.

Sometimes, I still have to translate what I want to say from Bahasa to English. Then, because the grammar is quite different, I realised what I just translated in my head doesn't make any sense... So I just go into a momentary brain fart before I can compose a sentence. This is also why I have anxiety in any situation where I have to speak in front of a large group of people. I grew up not realising I have this anxiety because I grew up in a small town and went to the same school with pretty much the same people for 11 years. When I moved, my classes in high school were small and very understanding of ESL students so I was comfortable. University, on the other hand, do not have the same tolerance level because everyone is hold to the same standard. This semester, I'm taking 1 course where your participation is assessed. Every time I'm in the class, my heart beats really fast for an hour long and I only have the energy to contribute once every class. Every time I speak up, I try so hard to listen to what I was saying but sometimes it's so hard it feels like an out-of-body experience. And once I finish speaking, I would feel some sort of pain or tingling sensation on my chest. Fun fun for everyone!

Anyway, this leads me to think about relationships. I am currently single and not mingling, so there is no problem. But, I have seen many couples that are (old) white men with (younger) women that does not speak English very well. I am sure they understand but they have a hard time composing reply (like what I just said before in my case, maybe).

How do I know this?

I work in a cafe that sells Indonesian cuisine and a lot of said couples come by and order. Every single time, it would be the men doing all the ordering, while the ladies just nodding and pointing to the menu. Sometimes, I'm just too curious so I try and engage in conversation with the ladies but many times I was replied by confused looks and them also looking to their men to answer the questions that I directed at them. Then, I come to think of one problem that I still don't get.

How can you be in a relationship with someone who cannot communicate with you?

Sure, you have body language. Well, yes, you both understand each other. However, it seems a little harder when one of you just understand but at the same time has a hard time to reply. I mean, if the relationship is not serious, I guess it's fine??

Personally, one of the most important thing in a relationship is communication. You're bringing two different souls into one weird concoction and it seems impossible without the two of you exchanging in verbal communication. This is not even just for romantic relationship, but also friendship and professional relations.

What do you do with your significant other, then, if you can't even have a conversation with them? How patient are you to explain and get your meaning across? Do you ever get tired? Is it hard at all? What do you talk about? Do you talk to each other often?

I have a friend from Thailand. Her mum is from Thailand and her stepdad is from Norway. Her mum understand English but has a hard time speaking (which is common for Asian, heck that is also me sometimes). She also doesn't feel comfortable speaking in English. Her English is sometimes broken. (I also would like to say that she is one of the best cooks and all her food is mind-blowing). My friend's stepdad understands very little Thai and her mum understands very little Norsk. But above it all, they seem happily married and everything is cool. How does that work?

Some of my friends that are Aussie native and sometimes their jokes and idioms goes over my head. When that happens, sometimes they're really nice and they will explain but it kills the mood because the joke that was supposed to be 'the bomb' got bombed. So is that what happen in a relationship where one party is a passive communicator (understands but not so good with replying)? The mood just always down and you have to explain everything to them? That doesn't sound like fun. What happens if you make a joke? Do you laugh with each other? Does the sarcasm goes through?

Also, how do you ever fight? Because I feel like if you never actually communicate with each other, there's nothing to fight about. Also, the fight will be sort of pointless because it's one sided. Do you argue? How does that go?

I don't know why but I'm just so interested to know about all this. If you could have some insight in the comments below that would be really appreciated.

Well, so far, those are the only questions in my head in this topic. Hope you enjoy the first instalment of Stream of Consciousness!

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Pentax P30

For my birthday two years ago, I decided that I would get myself a present. If you've been following this blog for quite sometime, you know that I like film photography. Not necessarily good at it, but I love it.

So, I browse eBay for some secondhand camera deals. Before that, I have only used point and shoot film camera, like Holga, Sprocket Rocket, or La Sardina. Also, I did not really understand the method of manual photography. However, I really really want to learn. And what better way to learn the basic by going to basic a.k.a. analog photography. I won a Pentax P30, a manual SLR camera from 1980, for quite a low price and was so excited to start my adventure with my new lover.

The thing that bugs me the most was the lens. From the auction, I got a 28-70mm zoom lens and it is super heavy, making it hard for me to bring the camera around. I wanted to buy a prime lens but for the good quality lenses, the price was not cheap. I decided to wait, since I would feel really bad if I use my parents' money to buy things that is not related to education or basic living.

Last summer, I got my first job and decided to splurge my first wage for a SMC Pentax M 1:2 50mm lens! Just in time since the zoom lens apparently has some fungus on it. Since then, I've started using my Pentax P30 (which I sometimes refer to as Penty-Pee-Titty, don't ask why) as much as I can do and learning more.

Anyway, here are some of my favourite pictures from Pentax P30 test roll:

The 28-70mm zoom lens...

*some statue around Canberra Repertory Theatre 3, Acton*

*ANU School of Art, the (only) good looking building on campus*

*wall mural, ANU. I love how the sun expose the eyes and the top half of the face, bringing out the emotion of the piece*

*Testing macro mode*

SMC Pentax M 1:2 50mm lens...

*My favourite part of my room where I put up pictures from high school all taken with film camera. The lens is very good in low light and the bokeh is pretty lovely too*

*Testing it out the lens for the first time*

Those are some of my favourite pictures from the test roll. I'm really impressed with the prime lens quality and definitely do not regret the slightly pricy purchase. Share your film or analog photography story, or let me know what you think in the comments below!

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Easy DIY: No-Sew Phone Case

 I was scrolling through Buzzfeed yesterday night and I found this article about easy no sew DIY projects. I have been wanting to do some DIY projects since I am still on my Easter Break procrastinating (as per usual). I decided to do one of the projects: Duct Tape Phone Case.

I follow the steps from this original article. The steps are all written clearly with pictures along the way to make sure that you can follow easily and correctly.

Here are the main materials that you will need:

  1. A piece fabric of your choice. You can even use your old clothes or a blanket, make it more cosy and sentimental. You will probably need about 20cm x 25cm but it all depends on the size of your phone
  2. Duct tape. You can use the usual ones but the pattern and colour duct tapes are a lot more fun to see.
  3. Scissors
  4. Stapler
  5. Velcro

And these are just in case you need it: fabric glue and glitter tape

I'm not going to bore you with the steps because that would also be plagiarism. Not really, I just don't think I can do any better explaining the steps than the original article did. So you should really check the link out!

I did mine in about 2 hours and though it is not the best, I am really pleased with the result! It looks cute outside and the inside.

It is a little bit too big for my phone but I am glad that I made it a little bigger. I think I can use the extra space in the pouch to carry earphones, cards or some money when I am in a hurry. 

One thing to know is that this case is in no way will protect from bumps and falls. This is more of a pouch that it is a case. If you fancy it, you can also add some wrist or shoulder strap to it. Also, it is quite hard to keep the velcro in place on the duct tape side for me. The fabric glue did a good job on the fabric side. However, the duct tape side does not really work with fabric glue. I ended up stapling the velcro to keep it firm then use the glitter tape to hide the staples. It looks good as an accented point as well!

Don't forget to try this for yourself. It is insanely easy and appropriate for kids project (with adult supervision). Also, the result is lovely!


Sunday, March 29, 2015

Last Week's Food: Lonsdale Street Roasters and Gelatissimo

Welcome back to the new segment of Last Week's Food!

I've been upping my photos skill for this segment and took time to edit it a little bit so it looks prettier than what it actually is. So, here we go:

Last Sunday, a friend of my friend came to town for a visit. She wanted to go to places that is very Canberra so we took her to Lonsdale Street Roasters/Eatery!

Lonsdale is a street in Braddon, ACT, where you can find many people hangout at nights and weekends at heaps of cool cafe and eatery. There are a lot of choices for food around the suburb, from vegan to all-meat, Asian to French, outdoor or indoor, you make the decision. 

For brunch last week, I opt for the classic grilled/roasted salmon and eggs Benedict with corn bread. If you're worried about the small portion size of cafe's foods, don't be. You get plenty at Lonsdale Street Roasters. As you can see you get 2 blocks of salmon belly, a big corn bread, and 2 eggs Benedict. It was yummy and soo fulfilling. 

Lonsdale is famous for its coffee. Sadly, I did not order it last time. My friend did but I forgot to take a picture of it. It smells delicious, though!

Instead of coffee, I ordered a chai latte (my go-to drink). Look at this gorgeous glass of chai latte. Also, check out the little spoon! There is a mini vintage car at the end of the spoon. A great attention to detail. 

The cafe is also pet friendly. There are many people bringing their dogs to enjoy the breakfast with them. However, I'm not sure if there is a special food for the pets. Anyway, this is one of the greatest cutest dog we saw that day. I think that's a great dane? Or a Dalmatian? Anyway, it was bigger than the table and so calm and super adorable. 

The rest of the week was not that special in terms of food. I spent a lot of time in the library doing assignment so I did not take pretty pictures. Also, the food wasn't that special.

But I got some vouchers of buy-1-get-1-free Gelatissimo and decided to use it. You know, college kids mentality. Wherever discount is present, we are there. It's been such a long time since I had Gelatissimo. As per usual, I bought the classic chocolate flavour gelato and it was heavenly. (Sorry the cup is dirty, I was half way eating)

Anyway, that was a look back of the food (with better quality photos). Sorry it was only from 2 different place but hopefully you guys enjoy this post! x
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