Semicolon

Do you ever think of creating a new blog, start a new place, a fresh blank space?

Yes, many times. This blog sort of harness my memories for about 7 to 8 years. A lot of things that might not make sense to you, the readers, make a lot of sense to me. This blog was a compilation of my stories, vaguely personal, mostly about love and friendship. Many of the posts reminded me of a specific events, sometimes even a specific conversation.

This blog revolves around some of the important people in my life. As we grow up, we all know we change, so do other people. People move on. I did, my important person did, my friends did too. Sometimes, we move on without ending what was established. Sometimes, people need to move on completely. The table of plenty has turned into table of empty. And we learned to move away from that.

The time taken to find a new table is not the same for everyone of us. It might take longer for some people and that's okay. People are not accustomed to change and some people stay in our lives to teach us how to let go.


That's why I never go through with the plan of creating a new blog. Life has its highs and lows. It has many many pages to be turned and each one of them is always a fresh new one. The pages I turned in the past were the ones that lead me here, with my own victory marks. You have victory marks/battle scars to show the world that you went through a personal battle, whatever it is, and you won. You survived. You are ready for the next battle. I want to remember my fights and my highs, as well as my lows as a humble reminder.

Whatever they may be, you can go through your battles too. Don't give up and show your victory marks proudly;

Jangan Cintai Aku Apa Adanya

Last Valentine's Day, I went to have dinner with a few good senior friends of mine. We talked nonsense for a good 4 hours and honestly, it was a great Valentine's Day because of them.

We talked about good Indonesian song and stumbled on one popular song by Tulus. A love song titled, Jangan Cintai Aku Apa Adanya (which loosely translates to 'don't love me for who I am'). One of my friend claimed that it is the most romantic song. To which I say, I disagree.

Here is the snippet of the lyrics:
Kau terima semua kurangku
Kau tak pernah marah bila ku salah
Engkau selalu memuji apapun hasil tanganku
Yang tidak jarang payah
Jangan cintai aku apa andanya
Tuntutlah sesuatu biar kita jalan kedepan

(Mediocre) Translation:
You accept all my flaws
You're never mad when I did wrong
You always praise everything that I do
Even if they are bad
Don't love me for who I am
Demand something from me so that we can move forward (in the relationship)

To an extent, I agree with the lyrics. You cannot just please everyone every time by telling your significant other that they are doing so well when in fact they are not. Especially when they ask for your opinion, you should give the most constructive opinion without being condescending. They might not agree with you, argument might spark, but that is a part of being in a relationship. So, yes, as a significant other you should support your significant other improve to become a better person.

However, there is another side to this argument, which is why I disagree with this song being the most romantic. Basically, the singer (let's assume it's about the singer) is willing to change themselves and grant whatever his significant other's wished just to make that person happy. That does not sound right to me.

For instance, your significant other doesn't like the way you dress, you changed it to their taste all the time. He/she doesn't like you in certain way and you will always change yourself to cater their 'needs'. Maybe they don't like your friends, who are always there from the beginning, but you don't socialise with them anymore to make your significant other happy and lose all your good friends. Wouldn't that mean, overtime, you are losing your own identity? Also, wouldn't that mean that when you break up and have another significant other, you will have a brand new identity, again?

Anyway, the song did not specify what 'moving forward' means. Moving forward can be perceived as something positive in a relationship when you do it the right way. But when the future doesn't go as planned and you have to break it off, that can also be classified as moving forward.

So, what do you think? Do you think it's always a good thing to accept your partner the way they are? Or you're the kind of person who don't mind change to make your significant other love you more?

Here's the song for y'all: